I spend a lot of my time supporting children and adults with their mental health in my practice in Bourne, Lincolnshire and online via zoom, but one thing that occurred to me this week is what about the people around you that support your mental health?
Who are they?
Parents, siblings, friends, colleagues…
There are people who want to support us, and sometimes, especially when we are in a negative space, we don’t see them.
So what can we do to support those who are struggling with their mental health In a supportive way?
1.Be mindful of how you support them
To begin with, just be mindful of where you sit within this. Are you climbing into the problem and sitting in it with them? Or supporting by sitting alongside? If we utilise our own mental capacity and fill it with someone elses problems, then we have none left for ourselves. So remember you first.
2.Build the positives and don’t dwell on the negatives
Have a positive conversation. Colluding with the problem doesn’t fix anything so asking ‘What’s been good?’ or ‘What’s gone well today?’ supports positive brain function and the opportunity for the brain to find something good within that day.
3.Change the picture
Arrange a walk and talk or a coffee date. Take them out of the surroundings that they may be cooped up in. If leaving the house is too difficult, then a garden date with cake is always a winner. Being outside really supports our brains ability to relax and change the scenery. Also, try and unplug from the electricals which could be keeping us indoors.
4.Be aware of how you ask questions
Open ended questions can be really helpful too. If we are always focused on the problem there will be no room for the answer. So try things like:
- What are you looking forward too tomorrow?
- If you felt a bit happier/ relaxed/ motivated what would you be doing?
You may not get a reply but, the brain will be working on it behind the scenes. Open ended questions can really support someone to begin to look at the small things they can do to change the situation.
5.Be consistent and in a good mindset
Showing up for someone else can be draining so make it enjoyable and at a time that you are at your best so it takes more of a supportive role and not a negative one.
If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, hummingbird hypnotherapy based in Bourne, Lincolnshire, offers free initial consultations to chat about how I can support you. Working with children and adults both face to face and online via zoom.