Who is Nicole Woodcock?

I have spent the last five years at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy as a Clinical Hypnotherapist. A business that I am very proud of. But, I haven’t always been a Clinical Hypnotherapist. I actually didn’t even plan to be one. It just happened. Then what followed was becoming a lecturer and now a newly qualified supervisor.

One thing that has always been part of my life is looking after people, though in particular children. I have previously worked for the local council supporting children in short break services and prior to that, supporting young adults within the social care system. It’s almost like it’s in-built into me, to support others to achieve their best. When I worked in Leicester we were even followed around by a Daily Mail reporter for the entire day who did a piece on working in the community. Great fun.

My first job was actually serving petrol at my dads classic car garage. I was 13 and I loved it!

Especially Saturday afternoon when we would lock the garage down and have a snickers bar each (ssshh don’t tell my mum!)

Those moments I’ll treasure. My love for cars has always been with me. Many weekends as a child standing in the rain at a race track waiting to see my Dad, Cousin or Uncle race past and give them a wave. It was quite a privilege to be involved in it all and visit most of the race tracks up and down the UK.

Other than the petrol head that I think is just in my blood, I love music, especially dance music. Probably one of the biggest things I’ve missed during lock down is dancing, going to gigs and just enjoying being with friends in a wonderful atmosphere. The closest I’ve got is having a running rave down the fen with my headphones on loud enough to blow my ears off!

Aside from serving fuel and looking after children I spent ten years working in a function venue. Managing Gigs, Weddings, Birthdays and 600 Leicester City Football Fans on match day. I think that’s quite possibly where I burnt out my adrenals and fell out with my liver – but equally good fun.

Now married with my two children, in a pandemic the highlights recently have included increasing my knowledge base with ongoing qualifications and just recently booking some gigs and much needed breaks away.

Its amazing where life  can take you and where you end up. This certainly wasn’t what I expected but then I never had a plan either!

My advice would be to give yourself a chance to remember how you got here. What strengths you have and how they have shaped you. We get one chance at this. Make sure you give it your best!

 

 

How can we help our children to think positively?

February sees us celebrate children’s Mental Health week. Something that many of us myself included are very mindful of at the moment.

I have seen many conversations about how resilient children are and how we must realise that they take things in their stride and they will be ok. For some this is true. For many, the harsh reality is broken routines, environments that aren’t school, social disconnection from friends, limited conversations and most of all limited social interaction. ALL of which we rely on for enabling us to feel good and feel part of something bigger.

What do our children need?

As human beings we need regular contact, movement and a good flow of positive thought to enable us to be in a good place and support our mental and physical health. For children they rely predominantly on parents’ friends and teachers to support this. Now it’s back to those who are at home. Some are fortunate to have siblings to play with (not always in my house as by Wednesday they do each other’s heads in! LOL!) some don’t have others in the home and fully rely on a parent to take on many roles.

All children are different

But, when all is said and done, this situation isn’t normal, and it can impact on everyone differently.

That’s right, we are all different!! Thankfully.

Say for example, two children are both unwell and end up going into hospital. One child talks to his mum and says don’t worry we can fight this. I just need to stay positive and I will get well.

The other child is very worried and scared that they are going to die and will never recover. Despite being told they have every chance of getting better.

Now this isn’t just about positive thought. This is about stress. If we have an increased amount of adrenalin and cortisol in our body and are constantly creating a fight or flight response in our body, then we are more likely to be unwell for longer and take longer to recover. Whereas if we are able to stay intellectually in control and manage our stress well with a happy it will be ok attitude, recovery is quicker.

How can we help our children?

So how can we begin to change things for the better for our children?

Implementing the 3 Ps (I don’t mean mushy) is a great start.

At the end of each day grab a nice notebook and pen and sit together. Collectively write down what has been good today.

Include a

  • Positive Action
  • Positive Interaction
  • Positive Thought

Consistently doing this will enable the brain to start to change its rewiring process to look for the good in things. This supports the brain in finding a constant flow of serotonin and enabling it to stay intellectual in control. More control, less stress.

And remember this tool isn’t just for kids you know!!

This biggest factor in mindset and mental health is FUN! Working together to find fun things to do with each other as a family unit. Collectively getting our happy hormones serotonin, dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin will support the whole family. Especially if you throw in a 20 second hug or ten!

If you would like to book a free consultation with me to find out how clinical hypnotherapy would benefit your child then please enter your details here to get in touch.

 

My Solution Focused Story and working with children with additional needs.

My solution focused story and working with children with additional needs and challenging behaviour.

I am often asked how I became a solution focused hypnotherapist. Whenever I share my story it always makes me giggle. I was fortunate to have an amazing birth with my youngest daughter using the self-hypnosis for childbirth approach. A good friend and now colleague of mine Gary Johannes helped me build the confidence to have a home birth and faith in my body to deliver at home. Being 40 minutes away from the nearest hospital in rural Lincolnshire I knew deep down we wouldn’t be going anywhere near one after having such a traumatic time with my first child.

Safe to say my daughter was delivered by her dad in our lounge with the help of the 999-operator talking him through the process. I on the other hand cool as a cucumber and enjoying my birth experience knowing we were doing this together. Our daughter arrived in her amniotic sac at the same time as the paramedics walked through the door. The midwife arrived 50 minutes later and could not believe we had achieved such a wonderful birth.

My Hypno baby now Aged 4. Chilling on my couch.

There begins the story, four months later I was on CPHT Peterborough course adding a qualification for my CV.

Qualifying in June 2016 with my practice Hummingbird Hypnotherapy. Unbelievable. Did not see that coming at all.

My background has always been working with people in particular elderly mentally ill, additional needs and challenging behaviour. Previously 11 years working for the local authority for children with additional needs, sensory processing, autism and behavioural issues.

To put it into context, everyday was different many days involved confrontation, increased anxiety, ‘kick offs’ and waiting to get hurt. Not your average job but at the time I loved it.

Fast forward three years after qualifying and I am now working with children with complex needs, autism, behavioural issues, challenging behaviours, anxiety and more. The difference? The way I work now is non-confrontational in a fun neutral space where all that’s been good goes.

If only I had been allowed to bring this practice into my workplace. Not just for the children but the staff too.

I took a leap of faith when I began to work with children with additional needs, I hoped that this process would have a profound impact, the reality is it changes lives. Not just of the child but the family too.

I have been so privileged to work with some children who over the course of their 14 years have been given 14 different diagnosis and labels. 8 sessions later and she is a confident artist who has just set up her own online business selling her fantastic artwork.

 She has chosen too to be home schooled and after only leaving the house with the company of her mum, now walks her dog for two hours a day, on her own and managed to attend a concert in London without a panic attack. Just WOW!

A little boy who  does not stop and enjoys most of his sessions playing with tangle toys, squishy and sticking his head in the massage face hole in my couch (lol) who managed to transition to a new school without increased anxiety and behaviour. He kindly threw me a curve ball not wanting to attend a session in my room and preferring to be outside. Nothing beats asking what’s been good?’ sat in the sunshine on a bench.

Reducing anxiety with children with additional needs by using the solution focused approach is at times mind blowing. Working out that classroom layouts cause such profound anxiety in some children  their opportunity of learning goes out of the window. Getting them to imagine and choose where they would sit has been a fantastic solution with amazing outcomes.

 After his mum spoke to the teacher about our sessions, she agreed to trial it for a week. He paid more attention, his class scores increased, and he stopped taking home all the work he couldn’t do in class as he completed it all in the day.

Part of the work involves my environment and fun. I talk about being a positive pineapple, no drama llama, having a box of emojis stickers and a crate of sensory toys to help with self-regulation and relaxation. Colour boxes, ceiling lights and a comfy couch with a llama blanket just add to a session.

Who said therapy had to look boring?

If you are looking for additional help for your child, please get in touch here

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Being on your own

I have often wondered about how people feel about being on their own. Taking time to just be with yourself and enjoy your own company. For a long time I always imagined it to be quite uncomfortable, my own negative brain screaming at me shouting ‘ look at that loner on her own’,  ‘ obviously has no friends’. I have often sat and admired people that are just happy to sit and read a paper and have a coffee within their own company and wondering if they have this annoying scenarios pop up and shout at them too.

I remember quite vividly living on my own in Leicester and a friend of mine just mentioned that maybe I should take myself for coffee in my favourite shop to overcome the fear of being on my own. I took him up on it, grabbed my book and headed out. Scared!

I found a quiet corner ordered a mega mocha and sat and read. After 5 minutes the noise in my head began to quieten and I got lost in my book in a caffeine fuelled daze.

These days its very different. In between work commitments and family alone time seems like such a privilege if not a reward for juggling everything in the week and surviving. I spend most my mornings in anxiety mode getting my children ready aiming to be on time for school. Inevitably im always late and instead of adding that too my bucket of negative crap I embraced it. In actual fact we now have a joke about it with all the other late mums. We now aim to beat each other.

Our fear stops us from making a proper assessment of the situation. It bombards us with lies and will continue to do so unless we take control and work with it.

Enjoy that quiet time, fill it with things that you love. Learn to have the courage and confidence to step outside of the wall you have built inside your head, one step at a time.

We all want to achieve things now! We have everything we need at the touch of a button but we have forgotten to give back and enjoy time with ourselves without technology. Those hobbies, crafts, exercises you enjoy doing are all the things that make you feel good and the things that enable you to process positive information and move forward. Take a moment to find that one goal that will help you to step outside of that comfort zone and spend sometime with you.

Whilst writing this months article I stepped outside with my laptop and headed to Stamford enjoying tea and cake at The Lean Pantry. I found a spot to people watch and thoroughly enjoyed my time writing. Eating chocolate cake and a matcha latte. Just time with me.

If you struggle with anxiety, fearful of stepping outside those comfort zones and need a confidence boost to move you forward in life. Get in touch.

Further information and videos on various subjects can be found on my facebook page Hummingbird Hypnotherapy.

Positive Thoughts

Nicole

Kalm Kidzz is back

Kalm Kidzz returns this week…

Kalm Kidzz is back. A wonderful after school programme to assist children with positive thinking, mindfulness and creative activities. These sessions are designed to boost serotonin in the brain, bring focus to the weeks achievements and create a can do attitude.

Sessions assist with anxiety, low confidence, sleepless nights and more… A recent comment from a mum ” these sessions benefit my sons mental health and help him to relax after a busy week at school”. Regular sessions enable the brain to focus on positivity and assist with relaxation. Kalm KIdzz sessions are based on a solution focused approach. Spending time with children to relax their mind and boost serotonin enables them to begin to create more positive neural pathways. This assists them in using the intellectual brain regularly resulting in accessing knowledge, relevant information and staying focused on the task in hand.

Teaching children this concept from an early age can help them with problem solving and finding the positive answer to situations. Promotes a positive relationship with emotions and acknowledging that all feelings and emotions are valid. Keeping stress levels low and creating a self care mind set to set them up for their future. For further information and booking please contact Nicole on 07540873928 or send a message via Facebook. www.facebook.com/kalmkidzz www.facebook.com/hummingbirdhypnotherapy.

Confidence, self esteem and doubt.

Life is a wonderful thing.. but does it pass you by?

We all go through life not knowing what is around the corner. There is a certain routine to growing up that has to be taken. Going to school, further education, job prospects.. but do you ever think, is this it?

None to often I sit with clients who have spent years worrying, every single day consumed in the past about what they have done and should it be done differently,  or the future.. what will happen tomorrow? Next week, next month, next year even.

Can you imagine just focus sing on now? Right now! What are you doing? Where are you?

Just take a look around you and embrace what you see. Are you comfortable, what’s the weather like? Are you on a break at work or pretending to be?

What are you grateful for?

If there is something you want to do or change how can you make it happen for you?

Are you good enough to do it? Do you doubts Yourself?

HYPNOTHERAPY puts All those doubts Into to perspective. Over time increases confidence and gives you the belief you need to  make those changes. Increases self esteem and puts you back into the driving seat of your life. Break the routine, plan that goal, get creative, embrace that person you know you are. Step out of the rat race, turn off that phone and be in the now.

Embrace now!