How does feeling in control impact our mental health?

When we are in control we have a confidence within ourselves to be able to understand that everything is ok. We are great at making decisions and being able to be our best. More importantly, we can manage our lives knowing that we’re able to do those things expected from us.

What is the law of control?

Feeling in control supports positive judgement and the ability to have a positive relationship with ourselves.

The law of control is an essential law in understanding how we function. The more control we feel we have, supports the amount of mental health we have.

This law simply states that if we feel good about ourselves then we can feel in control of our lives.

If we become controlled by outside circumstances and other people then we lose the self control we have and become influenced by uncertainty and self doubt.

Control is a constant.

So the more we are in control of, the more we are able to manage.

Intellectually that supports positive brain health and our ability to enjoy what we are doing. Feeling in control also supports the brain by producing serotonin and positive brain chemicals from all of the things we are enjoying doing in this space.


What stops us from feeling in control?

So what knocks it?

Well if we have an increase in stress in our bodies and our cortisol goes up, we trigger our primitive response and begin to lose intellectual control. This then refers to previous patterns to try and support us. Not always helpful.

Self-criticism, negative thoughts, low confidence, lack of motivation. Anxiety, anger and depression are also in the mix when we are responding primitively.


How do we stay in control?

A really helpful way to stay in control is to note down what is going well. Invest in a notebook that you like and pop it in a memorable place to give you a nudge when you need to use it.

This supports our brain to search for things that have gone well and create new positive neural pathways. The more often we do this the more we are able to stay in a good headspace and feeling well.

Ask your friends, family and partner “What’s been good?” regularly, so they then too have to think about everything that has gone well.

If you are struggling to find the positives then pop me a message and we can arrange a free initial consultation to discuss hypnotherapy solutions and get you back in control.

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