What is hypnotherapy?

When people ask me what I do, there is usually the intrigued view that I can somehow make people do things that they don’t want to, involving a ticking clock and some random words, all from my little consultation room in Bourne, Lincolnshire.

 

So what is hypnotherapy?

Hypnotherapy is talk therapy that utilises trance (relaxed focused attention) to support the brain to make more positive choices, but more importantly, to support the rewiring of neurotransmitters and increase the production of serotonin. 

 

The intellectual brain

The intellectual brain supports positive choices and enables access to the vast intellectual resource that helps us to be in control, and do all of the things we want to do. This area of the brain is available when we have a constant flow of serotonin, which can be created through positive action, positive interaction and positive thought. 

 

The primitive brain

When we are in a primitive space, we are always looking for something going wrong in the future or thinking about things that have happened to us in the past. The constant flow of negative thought can then trigger the amygdala, which accesses the negative response system stored in the hippocampus.

Anger, anxiety and depression are our primitive responses when this happens. 

If we are constantly on high alert, which increases our adrenalin and cortisol, then we can respond in these ways more than we want to. 

 

 

How does hypnotherapy help?

Clinical Hypnotherapy has the ability to support clients to spend more time in their intellectual brain.  

This supports better choices and more importantly help those choices to ‘stick’. This creates new pathways, new habits and a new mindset. 

Change only happens when we are in control and having a consistent flow of serotonin. 

Utiltising my free relaxation download can support the brain to relax and more importantly achieve better REM sleep.

REM sleeps supports the brain to process the thoughts of the day so having the ability to relax and support this system can be beneficial to reduce stress and more importantly wake up ready for the day. 

If you need support and are interested in clinical hypnotherapy, please get in touch and book a free initial consultation with me. I can work virtually or you can visit me in person in Bourne, Lincolnshire.

 

 

5 ways you can support someone with their mental health

I spend a lot of my time supporting children and adults with their mental health in my practice in Bourne, Lincolnshire and online via zoom, but one thing that occurred to me this week is what about the people around you that support your mental health?

 

Who are they?

 

Parents, siblings, friends, colleagues…

 

There are people who want to support us, and sometimes, especially when we are in a negative space, we don’t see them.

 

So what can we do to support those who are struggling with their mental health In a supportive way?

 

 

1.Be mindful of how you support them

To begin with, just be mindful of where you sit within this. Are you climbing into the problem and sitting in it with them? Or supporting by sitting alongside? If we utilise our own mental capacity and fill it with someone elses problems, then we have none left for ourselves. So remember you first.

 

2.Build the positives and don’t dwell on the negatives

Have a positive conversation. Colluding with the problem doesn’t fix anything so asking ‘What’s been good?’ or ‘What’s gone well today?’ supports positive brain function and the opportunity for the brain to find something good within that day.

 

3.Change the picture

Arrange a walk and talk or a coffee date. Take them out of the surroundings that they may be cooped up in. If leaving the house is too difficult, then a garden date with cake is always a winner. Being outside really supports our brains ability to relax and change the scenery. Also, try and unplug from the electricals which could be keeping us indoors.

 

 

4.Be aware of how you ask questions

Open ended questions can be really helpful too. If we are always focused on the problem there will be no room for the answer. So try things like:

  • What are you looking forward too tomorrow?
  • If you felt a bit happier/ relaxed/ motivated what would you be doing?

You may not get a reply but, the brain will be working on it behind the scenes. Open ended questions can really support someone to begin to look at the small things they can do to change the situation.

 

5.Be consistent and in a good mindset

Showing up for someone else can be draining so make it enjoyable and at a time that you are at your best so it takes more of a supportive role and not a negative one.

 

If you or someone you know is struggling with their mental health, hummingbird hypnotherapy based in Bourne, Lincolnshire, offers free initial consultations to chat about how I can support you. Working with children and adults both face to face and online via zoom.

 

Take Care

Nicole

Overcoming Loss with Clinical Hypnotherapy

Grief. A place of loss and sadness.

It has so many different emotions attached to it. Grief can be physical, behavioural, social, spiritual, it comes with so many different dimensions.

How do we grieve?

Well, like everything else, we are all different within loss. It depends on the connection you have with that person but also where you are in life and the events leading up to that point.

I lost my Nan this week after a six week stint in hospital.

Hard enough at this time when I couldn’t see her and keep her spirits up but the last week we could visit and that helped.

She has always been one of my favourite people, knew how to say just the right thing and offer a hug when needed or ice cream.

As I have got older I have begun to see loss beyond the sadness it can bring, I am well aware of the fluctuating emotions but even more aware of the memories and the knowing that she taught me so much. I have continued to ask myself what I have also learnt from her too because it has supported who I have become over the last 40 years. From the knowledge of nature to the love of a good crossword but more than anything, the fun in mischief.

How do you move on?

Many have lost and that can have its heaviness but the lightness comes from the learnings and the ability to tap into all that was good about that relationship and the parts that ultimately make you smile.

Grief is a process which affects people in different ways – it can be a constant reminder or an odd wobbly day. We all work differently.

If you’re struggling to overcome a loss, clinical hypnotherapy can really help to support the process and see things more clearly.

If you are struggling in the moment right now you can also download my free guided relaxation here

I always offer a free initial consultation either virtually or in person at my consultation room in Bourne, Lincolnshire.

 

Who is Nicole Woodcock?

I have spent the last five years at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy as a Clinical Hypnotherapist in Bourne, Lincolnshire. A business that I am very proud of. But, I haven’t always been a Clinical Hypnotherapist. I actually didn’t even plan to be one. It just happened. Then what followed was becoming a lecturer and now a newly qualified supervisor.

One thing that has always been part of my life is looking after people, though in particular children. I have previously worked for the local council supporting children in short break services and prior to that, supporting young adults within the social care system. It’s almost like it’s in-built into me, to support others to achieve their best. When I worked in Leicester we were even followed around by a Daily Mail reporter for the entire day who did a piece on working in the community. Great fun.

My first job was actually serving petrol at my dads classic car garage. I was 13 and I loved it!

Especially Saturday afternoon when we would lock the garage down and have a snickers bar each (ssshh don’t tell my mum!)

Those moments I’ll treasure. My love for cars has always been with me. Many weekends as a child standing in the rain at a race track waiting to see my Dad, Cousin or Uncle race past and give them a wave. It was quite a privilege to be involved in it all and visit most of the race tracks up and down the UK.

Other than the petrol head that I think is just in my blood, I love music, especially dance music. Probably one of the biggest things I’ve missed during lock down is dancing, going to gigs and just enjoying being with friends in a wonderful atmosphere. The closest I’ve got is having a running rave down the fen with my headphones on loud enough to blow my ears off!

Aside from serving fuel and looking after children I spent ten years working in a function venue. Managing Gigs, Weddings, Birthdays and 600 Leicester City Football Fans on match day. I think that’s quite possibly where I burnt out my adrenals and fell out with my liver – but equally good fun.

Now married with my two children, in a pandemic the highlights recently have included increasing my knowledge base with ongoing qualifications and just recently booking some gigs and much needed breaks away.

Its amazing where life  can take you and where you end up. This certainly wasn’t what I expected but then I never had a plan either!

My advice would be to give yourself a chance to remember how you got here. What strengths you have and how they have shaped you. We get one chance at this. Make sure you give it your best!

If you are interested in finding out more about clinical hypnotherapy then drop me an email here. I offer free initial consultations either virtually or from my consultation room in Bourne, Lincolnshire.

Alternatively, you can download a copy of my free guided relaxation here.

 

 

How can we help our children to think positively?

February sees us celebrate children’s Mental Health week. Something that many of us myself included are very mindful of at the moment.

I have seen many conversations about how resilient children are and how we must realise that they take things in their stride and they will be ok. For some this is true. For many, the harsh reality is broken routines, environments that aren’t school, social disconnection from friends, limited conversations and most of all limited social interaction. ALL of which we rely on for enabling us to feel good and feel part of something bigger.

What do our children need?

As human beings we need regular contact, movement and a good flow of positive thought to enable us to be in a good place and support our mental and physical health. For children they rely predominantly on parents’ friends and teachers to support this. Now it’s back to those who are at home. Some are fortunate to have siblings to play with (not always in my house as by Wednesday they do each other’s heads in! LOL!) some don’t have others in the home and fully rely on a parent to take on many roles.

All children are different

But, when all is said and done, this situation isn’t normal, and it can impact on everyone differently.

That’s right, we are all different!! Thankfully.

Say for example, two children are both unwell and end up going into hospital. One child talks to his mum and says don’t worry we can fight this. I just need to stay positive and I will get well.

The other child is very worried and scared that they are going to die and will never recover. Despite being told they have every chance of getting better.

Now this isn’t just about positive thought. This is about stress. If we have an increased amount of adrenalin and cortisol in our body and are constantly creating a fight or flight response in our body, then we are more likely to be unwell for longer and take longer to recover. Whereas if we are able to stay intellectually in control and manage our stress well with a happy it will be ok attitude, recovery is quicker.

How can we help our children?

So how can we begin to change things for the better for our children?

Implementing the 3 Ps (I don’t mean mushy) is a great start.

At the end of each day grab a nice notebook and pen and sit together. Collectively write down what has been good today.

Include a

  • Positive Action
  • Positive Interaction
  • Positive Thought

Consistently doing this will enable the brain to start to change its rewiring process to look for the good in things. This supports the brain in finding a constant flow of serotonin and enabling it to stay intellectual in control. More control, less stress.

And remember this tool isn’t just for kids you know!!

This biggest factor in mindset and mental health is FUN! Working together to find fun things to do with each other as a family unit. Collectively getting our happy hormones serotonin, dopamine, endorphins and oxytocin will support the whole family. Especially if you throw in a 20 second hug or ten!

If you would like to book a free consultation with me to find out how clinical hypnotherapy would benefit your child then please enter your details here to get in touch. I offer free initial consultations online as well as from my consultation room in bourne, lincolnshire.

 

Avoiding Burnout – Balancing Business and MUM

Image of Mum and children - Hypnotherapy Peterborough

I posted on social media this month on my personal journey with burnout and the negative impact it had on my life, showing two pictures three years apart. The point being that looking at them both you wouldn’t see any difference. So how can we juggle it all and manage everything in our day without compromising on our health?

As a clinical hypnotherpaist, the first thing I’ve come to realise is that you need to acknowledge it is your health, not mental or physical, it’s both. Your overall health is impacted by everything you do.

Quiet Time

One of the main things I make sure I do as a Mum, when planning my week is to ensure I get some quiet time. Silence has become my best friend most days. It gives me the time on my own I need to reflect and connect back to myself.

Exercise

Exercise is a no brainer (see what I did there!). The physical impact it has on our body is amazing but the mental impact is chemical inducing. We create an abundance of serotonin and endorphins which light our brain up like a Christmas tree. (so last season).

The biggest hit is when we have finished. The internal reward mechanism of dopamine. Like the sigh you get when getting in bed after a long day. All of these chemicals help with stress levels, brain fog, mental, clarity and endurance.

Good Diet

Food… glorious food. The joy that is a walk to the kitchen at the moment. But, be mindful when your getting there. A good diet high in fruits and veg, plenty of water, good carbs and proteins will always support your brain and your body.

Staying hydrated is a must. I used to rely heavily on caffeine laden drinks to keep me going, that just played havoc with my adrenals and my sleep pattern. So, just be mindful where you get your quick fix from and what is in it.

Reward yourself!

The biggest thing I learnt is that I have to reward myself for a job well done. I am really dismissive of my achievements. Once I have done a job I quickly move on to the next without even acknowledging it. So a great tip to enable you to look at what you achieve is to celebrate them every week. On a Friday a look over the week. Both business and home and write a list of what I did that week. A visual representation of a job well done. Your brain can’t argue with that. Then choose a reward…. You deserve it.

A bath, take out, walk, favourite coffee, snack, anything that will enable you to mark the occasion. An opportunity thank yourself for all your hard work.

If you are struggling with juggling, then book a free initial consultation and together we can get you back on track. I offer consultations both virtually and in person at my consultation room based in Bourne, Lincolnshire.

 

When did you become last on the list?

 

Where do you sit right now with your list of priorities?

When you create that daily to do list, what goes on it first?

I can guarantee it isn’t something for you.

With our ever increasing need and feel to do more, are we becoming more disassociated from those things we need for ourselves. The words self care are banded around everyday but what does it actually mean for you?

The first thing that will always get neglected if things don’t go to plan is the one thing we probably need the most.

” Oh it doesn’t matter ” are those few words that we say to others if we need to cancel, rearrange or just no longer have the time.

Even when you cannot do anymore, you’re exhausted, feeling unwell, the mental punishment and questioning we then give to ourselves is just as stressful as having to stop in itself.

So….. When did you put yourself last on the list?

Who told you that you don’t matter enough to take an evening off, to make time for a bubble bath, to take that walk at lunch. To eat, drink well, look after yourself. Who actually said “you don’t matter so why bother?”

I’ve got bets on, you! You chose to decide you don’t matter. You put yourself at the bottom of that pile. How do I know? Because i’m the same. The difference is that I am slowly make better choices for myself and not others. I am choosing to show up differently and not try and do it all.

So, what can we do differently?

  • Make things you enjoy non negotiable. Have daily things to look forward to.
  • Move! When we get ourselves moving forward even if it is one step at a time, we can achieve more therefore having the time to give ourselves some space. Destination procrastination station doesn’t get anyone anywhere.
  • Plan regular interaction with others. It is really beneficial to talk things out with others so you can find solutions to problems and get a hit of serotonin from being in someone else company.
  • Take things one step at a time. Being overwhelmed is a sure fire way of forgetting yourself. So take things one task at a time.

If you’re struggling to prioritise yourself right now, get in touch. Clinical Hypnotherapy can really support you getting back on track.

I offer free initial consultations both virtually or in person at my consultation room in Bourne, Lincolnshire. Just click here to contact me.

In the meantime you can download my FREE guided relaxation to enjoy at any time of day.

Random Acts of Kindness


Random Acts of Kindness began in 2018. Being an avid fan of cheering people up, I became really aware that we all need joy in our lives. I gifted a Costa and a piece of cake in December 2018 to someone who I knew had been having a tough time and thought I’d really like to do this for more people. It really made her day. During lockdown we all needed a pick me up so I contacted a number of local friends and businesses. The generosity was incredible from meals out, gifts, pictures and afternoon teas, everyone locally wanted to be involved. Being able to support local businesses in the process was an added bonus. Once lockdown eased nominations came flooding in for those who had gone above and beyond for others. Doorstep deliveries commenced and kindness was delivered.

This year has already begun. Local businesses donating gifts, services, vouchers. November will see nominations opening. People can nominate those who they believe may need a pick me up, a quiet thank you for everything they do. A message delivered to show they are thought about. The ability to just spread kindness to others.

Delivery begins on the 1st December 2020. Gifts dropped on doorsteps. An entire advent of kindness. Everyday until Christmas Eve.

If you would like to donate or nominate anyone within a five mile radius of Bourne please get in touch with Nicole at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy via Facebook. www.facebook.com/hummigbirdhypnotherapy

 

Lets talk about Fears and Phobias

Fears and Phobias at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy. With busy life styles including positives and negative events is it any wonder at times we become uncomfortable with certain things and situations. 1 in 10 people struggle with a phobia and manage their day to day life efficiently enough to be able to ensure that it does not appear in front of them.

Sometimes even relying on others to support you with making sure a spider or bird are not around. Taking the stairs instead of the lift. Cancelling medical appointments continually for fear of seeing the GP or going into hospital. Our brain is very clever, if we are really stressed and anxious our fears and phobias can be exacerbated because our brain thinks it is keeping us safe. So keeping us on high alert, looking out for those things that scare us so that we can be ready and prepared to deal with it.

Just imagine a meerkat popping its head out of the sand continually looking out for predators. Over the years the clients I have seen with phobias have varied from a young person who could not wear clothing with buttons on or even look at is mums top if it had buttons on it without getting over anxious and fearful. To clients scared of flying and fearful of feathers and birds and anything that flaps. That last client as you can see has extended her phobia of feathers which she was originally scared of to now being fearful of all birds and anything that flaps. Our brain is very clever because it can associate things to that flight/fight state and then our phobia can become a lot bigger. This then begins to affect us more within our life.

Specific phobias can be treated with three sessions of Clinical Hypnotherapy once the Initial consultation has been completed. So three weeks from now you can be enjoying all of those things that you have stopped doing and start living. For daily insights and positivity head over to www.facebook.com/hummingbirdhypnot

Re opening after Lock down.

Things are beginning to change. As the UK begins its reopening plans to get our economy back on its feet, there appears to be far more that we need to begin to think about.

Remember March 2020 seems an age away, those moments of fear we all had about the coming months and being locked in our homes. The change that happened during this time has been immense. Businesses closed or furloughed staff, schools closed, daily shopping becoming a weekly occurrence and definitely not a family outing. Home schooling and juggling working from home. At the beginning it was so much to manage and adjust but we all did both. Managed and adjusted to our new way of life.

June 2020 and that change returns again. The process whereby we’re all confused as to what is actually happening other than garden socialising is the new thing of the year. Some schools return, others don’t. Some businesses can open others can’t. Is it any wonder that things have been overwhelming, anxious, fearful and at times emotional.

Add to the recipe the further ingredients… judgement, opinions, racism, consistent negative news feeds and a bundle of anger. Brain overload at its finest.

So, how are you feeling about this transition? New Normal as it has been named. A time to do what is best for you and your family. A time to stay safe, stay alert, don’t go out, do go out, go to work, or don’t!

This is a time for personal strength, a time to reunite and share positive support. If you don’t agree with someone else and their decision, remember that’s fine, it’s not yours. Leave your judgement at the door and be happy with your own decisions.

If nothing else, this year has taught me that even in our own homes with limited face to face contact with friends other than via a screen, supporting each other is the way forward. In business, in choices, in your trips to the beach. Share your wins, be grateful that your safe, carry on being kind and smiling…. please keep smiling. We have all managed this in our own way and have started to come out on the other side so lets build each other up and restore each other with faith and kindness.

I will have access to my office again after June 16th which I am looking forward too. Ready to deep clean and set up for social distanced sessions. Hummingbird Hypnotherapy will be offering Evening appointments from 6-9pm online. Monday to Friday Preparing for face to face sessions as soon as I am allowed too. Keep posted for updates

Guided Relaxations are still available online on Monday, Wednesday and Friday at 9pm. www.facebook.com/hummingbirdhypnotherapy