Random acts of kindness 2023

This year we have just launched the random acts of kindness for 2023 

An initiative that began a few years ago when I gifted a bunch of flowers and a coffee to someone struggling and going through a hard time. They sent me a message a few days later to thank me for such a kind gesture when they were going through a difficult time. 

Following on from this day I decided to begin gifting to people that I had heard were going above and beyond for others and then began to involve my network of small businesses in the local area too. Friends and family began to donate too.  

Over the last four years this initiative has donated over 100 gifts to people in the community who just go about their day giving to others and expecting nothing in return. 

This year we’re doing it again. So I am looking for gifts and also nominations of people to receive them. The Random Acts of kindness launches on the 1st Dec 2023 and will begin to deliver within Bourne and surrounding areas everyday until Christmas. This initiative  

 If you want to take part or nominate please email me directly on info@hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk or pop me a call on 07540873928 

“You’ve got the power!!”

Not just a great old skool song but in reality, we are the ones that hold all the answers to ourselves and where we want to go. 

No one knows more about you than you. This truly enlightening piece of information truly enables us to understand that when stress and life stuff gets in our way, we find it harder to find the answers and manage our own issues. When this builds up over time, we then begin to doubt our own capabilities and answers. Struggling to know what to do. Incomes overwhelm, uncertainty and a whole load of negativity, our internal stress bucket begins to fill. 

This then contributes to our responses coming from the hippocampus which stores all of our inappropriate and sometimes negative patterns of behaviour. 

Ever had a crap day and eaten a lot of rubbish, ditched the exercise and shut down?  Yep, this is the primitive brain in full motion. 

Many of us believe that we are unable to find the answers, this is also a primitive response, the brain telling us what we can’t do. We need to quieten down the mind and switch its capability to its intellectual state… One of control. 

To do this, we need to look at what is going right!! What has been good?? No matter how small. 

This allows us to see the truth and show us that despite our negative mind trying to butt in, we have still achieved things. Moved forward, noticed where we are going and growing. 

 How often do you do that?? 

You can plan and create lists until you are out of stationary about where you want to go, but please acknowledge every small step along the way. This truly helps us to see all of the journey and notice where we showed up within it. 

When we notice the things that have gone well, we actual fire off the same positive neuro chemicals as we do when we have done it. Our wonderful brain does not know the difference between real and imagined and so use it for its benefits. 

At the end of everyday acknowledge “what’s been good?”. Ask your partner, children, friends, choose to take part in and promote a positive conversation, you will be amazed at how things can begin to change. 

If you are feeling like a negative Nelly and need a boost over the winter months, you can arrange a FREE initial consultation at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy and support you to be winter ready… ? 

 

 

The Bourne Well Being Event

This month is really exciting for Hummingbird Hypnotherapy organising and sponsoring the Bourne Well Being Event. 

This event is now in its sixth year and has raised a considerable amount of money for local charities within the area in that time. 

The aim of these events Is to showcase a variety of different local businesses that support and boost well being. There are 21 stalls on the day plus the addition of booking a mini treatment. 

Included in this years event we have angel card readers, tarot, psychics, crystals, gifts, spiritual artwork, hypnotherapy, reflexology, body care and more. 

There are also four workshops running during the day. Yoga, meditation, sound therapy and yoga/pilates. So you can bring comfortable clothes and your yoga mat too.  

There will be refreshments available throughout the day plus an extensive raffle including some amazing prices. 

This event is FREE to attend and children are welcome. 

I look forward to seeing you there. 

 

How to manage the holidays

How do you manage YOU in the holidays? A wonderful few weeks, of family time can be great but yet exhausting at the same time. The juggle is real. 

So how can we manage things more effectively? 

 For a start have a look at what worked during the last holidays. I know that planning a home day really helps to manage my energy and wellbeing. Down time at home is important to get rest and recover but also to keep on top of things. 

Have a conversation with everyone at home in the family and ask them what they want to do. Something that involves being outside, a trip locally and supporting local businesses, a new park, stately home, a new walk. What do you have locally that you haven’t explored before? 

As a family we love finding new walks and beaches to explore together. 

Keep a good routine

This can help reduce grumpiness with the children. Keeping in a good sleep pattern can help process the events of the day and get good REM which helps us to wake up well. If this is a struggle give my FREE MP3 download a go to help at bedtime. The password to access this is HH2020.

 Ensure you get time to yourself

Creating time out for yourself is so important so you can still have space for you. Putting your oxygen mask on first is so important so you can then be there for others. 

If you or your family need support you can book a free initial consultation both online and face to face. Head to my website.

What is Solution Focused Clinical Hypnotherapy?

Many people I speak to are interested in the work I do but don’t understand how it works. Still even now in the 21st century we have this common misconception of mind control or clucking like a chicken. Most of which is media driven and usually involves images from comedy sketches and stage hypnotism that is far from the therapeutic tool of hypnosis and psychotherapy, that is incorporated into solution focused clinical hypnotherapy. A phrase coined by a gentleman called David Newton. He has taken the best elements of CBT, NLP, SFBT and Hypnotherapy to bring a modern and up to date therapy. Supporting clients to move away from the past, process and gain confidence to support a more positive future.

 

This wonderful therapy is based on neuroscience and our ability to focus on what we want rather than what we don’t want. A brain that is consistently reminded of all the problems will only focus on them and more to keep us anxious, stressed, worried, depressed. A brain that can relax even just a little can begin to find its own solutions.

 

As a practitioner, I don’t tell you what to do. I support you to find your own solutions and more importantly utilise the benefits of trance. This being just a state of focused attention very much likened to day dreaming. It supports your brain to figure out the solutions and more importantly put your body into a state of rest and digest. ( The place good things happen )

 

So who can benefit? Well the short answer is everyone. There are many solution focused clinical hypnotherapists up and down the country and many have specialisms. I specialise in working with children and adults with additional, neurodiverse and emotional needs. This area really excites me and has been a huge part of all the roles I have worked in most of my adult career.

 

I do however support clients outside of this. With stress, anxiety, depression, addiction or just those that feel stuck with something and can’t see a way through it.

 

My first experience of this therapy was as a case study a few weeks after having my son. We had quite a traumatic experience and solution focused clinical hypnotherapy gave me the confidence I needed to be able to cope with the change of being a mum, resolve past trauma and to feel comfortable feeding my son in public. This wonderful experience then lead to a beautiful hypno birth of my daughter at home three years later. Safe to say it has had a phenomenal impact on my life so much so I now practice it and teach it too.

 

If you are wanting further information on this therapy head to www.hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk

When do you say no, I do enough?

A conversation that I have had many a time  “ What is enough?” 

Can you define it? 

I know I have struggled with this. The issue we have is with all the things we do already it becomes the norm and so we forget how much is already getting done. Our work or day to day system is then being busy and productive but because there is so much of it we don’t register any reward because we are actually creating stress. 

Now don’t get me wrong we all need some stress to keep us motivated and ready to go so we are feeling challenged but we can manage it. The change is when we tip into threat stress. A constant state of stress where the cortisol doesn’t switch off and we feel like we are up against a deadline everyday… even an imagined one. 

Many people also have a great ability to ignore or not recognise the amount of work and effort that they already put into things and so take on even more looking for the fix or the next best thing. (Yup, done this!) Usually because we just do not give ourselves any credit for what we already do and so our primitive response is to do more!  

This can then lead to overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety, burn out, sleep issues and more.  

Once we begin to notice this pattern we can intervene and get honest with it! 

The thing with being honest with ourselves is that we have made the choice to change instead of just accepting things won’t change. There is an incredible amount of power in that. Stress and anxiety stops us from accessing solutions to problems and so when we get a glimmer of something not working for us and choosing to change it, we know at that point our brain is working more efficiently for us. 

 If you need some support to reassess where you are, create a more supportive routine and reduce stress and anxiety get in touch and book an initial consultation. 

 

 

Why do we struggle to take a break?

It is certainly something that more and more people are struggling with is taking a break. Time out, rest whichever you want to call it. The work hard play hard ethic. 

 It definitely has its place working hard and celebrating it but you know rest has to be right up there too. The importance of taking a break whether its allocated at work or you need to time block a space rest has its place. 

So what are its benefits? 

 Simply.. recovery. Not just mentally but physically too. If you’re a gym bunny even your body needs a day off. If you’re a workaholic yup your brain also needs time off! Put that brain on a sun lounger and give it a pina colada and a sunshine view. 

 

 

Rest. It supports our entire body and mind to step out of go go go and relax into be. We are after all human beings not human doings right? 

 So how can you rest and be? Rest isn’t just feet up chilling. Active rest can also put our bodies responses into rest and digest instead of fight and flight. Accessing the para sympathetic nervous system and allowing the body to chill.  

 Active Rest can be: 

  • A walk outside 
  • Time in the garden
  • Reading a book
  • Silence
  • Preparing nice food and eating
  • Being around friends and family in good company. 

 It’s time to make rest a priority in your diary. Block it out and think about how you can ensure you’re looking after your body and mind restfully ? 

 If you are struggling to switch off and relax, did you know that a few sessions of solution focused clinical hypnotherapy can support you to get back on track? Hummingbird Hypnotherapy offers free initial consultation sessions to meet and discuss the support you require. 

Available both online and face to face with appointments till 8pm four nights a week. 

 

www.hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk 

Is self-care selfish?

self care

Everyone talks about self-care and how it can help us to become better versions of ourselves by giving ourselves time out of a busy schedule. But is self-care selfish?

It becomes quite apparent to me that if you have to find time or set aside time for self-care then clearly there’s a lot going on in life. We have the busiest lifestyles we’ve ever had we are more stress than we’ve ever had and we have the additional chore of looking after ourselves. When did that become a thing?

I remember growing up that Saturday morning was always a time for my mum to give herself some pamper time knowing there’s no school run and no work either and that live and kicking on the TV would look after us while she took that time out. Now it seems that self-care needs to be more extravagant from spa days to mini breaks and retreating away for weekends with friends. When did self-care get so big? Why do we need to be so extravagant when self-care actually starts from the moment you wake up everyday and should just be part of your daily routine?

 

 

Take a car for example. If you buy a new car you look after it, you make sure it’s clean, you make sure it’s serviced and more importantly fill it with fuel to keep it going. I’m guessing you look after it to the best of your ability with what you have at the time. Human bodies are no different. We actually spend a lot of our time ignoring our ability to care for ourselves because we’re worried about others or being too stressed, too busy or too tired to actually slow down and give ourselves the time we need. Self-care can be time to just sit with your thoughts to have a hot shower, to relax in new PJ’s and even walking the dog. Self-care also looks like an early night and prioritising your week depending on the energy you have at the time. Self-care isn’t doing more. Self-care should be a non negotiable and should always be in your diary first. If self-care is always in your diary first then you will always be first. If you don’t start by looking after you who does?

I always find it strange in practise working with some clients because self-care goes out of the window because busy always takes over but when you’re caring for others who’s looking out for you? Whether you’re a busy Mum or you’re a working Dad whether you’re sitting exams or going through retirement, giving yourself the best opportunity to be the best you can be on that day is so important. When did you last put yourself first?

If you need support to be able to do this because looking after yourself hasn’t been a priority then get in touch.

Hummingbird hypnotherapy offers a free initial consultation for all new clients and can help you set your non negotiables and make sure looking after you is your first priority.

Resolutions versus reality

 

Happy New Year… 2023 is slowly rolling itself in and it’s that time of year again where our socials are bombarded with ‘New year, new you!’ headlines, diets, goals and plans.  

In the new year we should be supporting ourselves to slowly step into a new year and take our time to support where we are right now. 

We have just stepped through one of the busiest months in our calendar and celebrated the festive season and then expected to flip life on its head, get healthy, move more, stop drinking, quit smoking and all the other resolutions you just gave yourself. 

 We all know that within a few days of this ‘new me’ energy something will trigger the old pattern of behaviour and all of a sudden a take away looks like a great idea and a bad day of work is now an excuse for a glass of wine. 

Habits don’t change themselves overnight.  

Our ability to change something also depends on how much stress we are under. If we lead a relaxed and predominately stress free lifestyle we are more resilient and able to change those habits quite easily. 

Whereas if we’re feeling quite stressed and putting additional pressure on ourselves to reach a certain goal then we are more likely to fail and not achieve it. 

 You see, our brain is wired for threat and change, if we have formed a negative habit, once we try and change it, our brain sends an alert that tells us not too. ‘This is different’ and so stays where it is. 

 The trick is to change one small thing at a time. Particularly if you know your stressed and struggle to adapt to new things. 

Write a list of everything you would like to improve on over this year. Put everything down no matter how silly it may be. Then find the one that you know right now you can change. 

You may start with eating a healthy breakfast. Just one healthy meal at a time. You could start taking regular walks and then build up to running or going to the gym. Meditating for 2 minutes and building it up weekly. Drop one glass of wine and then decrease it. Reduce caffeine one cup a week. 

 Making those small changes will support your brain to adapt more easily but it also takes away the pressure. A goal is a goal if it’s important you will always reach it. 

 If you are struggling with your mental health, support and habit change then book an initial consultation. Available face to face and online. 

Random Acts of Kindness

November brings a different dynamic to Hummingbird Hypnotherapy with the launch of our 4th Random Acts of Kindness.

Every year we take donations from local small businesses to give back to the community and support others.

The whole idea began four years ago when I visited a friend who was going through a tough time. So I went and bought her some flowers, a Costa and a cake and she was over the moon. She said that no one had ever done that for her and really appreciated it.

That day when I left her I decided to gift a few extra random acts that year and promised to make it bigger the following year.

Now four years later we have delivered over 250 gifts from local businesses to local residents supporting both small business owners and giving the gift of kindness.

If you would like to get involved with Random Acts of Kindness and donate please get in touch with Nicole at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy info@hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk all gifts will be donated to nominees within a five mile radius of Bourne by Nicole and her two elves this year Danie and Finula.

Spreading kindness and festive cheer to as many people as we can. Every donation helps.

If you are struggling this year with Christmas and the festive season solution focused clinical hypnotherapy can support you to have a relaxed and stress free Christmas. All clients will receive a free initial consultation.