The Bourne Well Being Event

This month is really exciting for Hummingbird Hypnotherapy organising and sponsoring the Bourne Well Being Event. 

This event is now in its sixth year and has raised a considerable amount of money for local charities within the area in that time. 

The aim of these events Is to showcase a variety of different local businesses that support and boost well being. There are 21 stalls on the day plus the addition of booking a mini treatment. 

Included in this years event we have angel card readers, tarot, psychics, crystals, gifts, spiritual artwork, hypnotherapy, reflexology, body care and more. 

There are also four workshops running during the day. Yoga, meditation, sound therapy and yoga/pilates. So you can bring comfortable clothes and your yoga mat too.  

There will be refreshments available throughout the day plus an extensive raffle including some amazing prices. 

This event is FREE to attend and children are welcome. 

I look forward to seeing you there. 

 

What is Solution Focused Clinical Hypnotherapy?

Many people I speak to are interested in the work I do but don’t understand how it works. Still even now in the 21st century we have this common misconception of mind control or clucking like a chicken. Most of which is media driven and usually involves images from comedy sketches and stage hypnotism that is far from the therapeutic tool of hypnosis and psychotherapy, that is incorporated into solution focused clinical hypnotherapy. A phrase coined by a gentleman called David Newton. He has taken the best elements of CBT, NLP, SFBT and Hypnotherapy to bring a modern and up to date therapy. Supporting clients to move away from the past, process and gain confidence to support a more positive future.

 

This wonderful therapy is based on neuroscience and our ability to focus on what we want rather than what we don’t want. A brain that is consistently reminded of all the problems will only focus on them and more to keep us anxious, stressed, worried, depressed. A brain that can relax even just a little can begin to find its own solutions.

 

As a practitioner, I don’t tell you what to do. I support you to find your own solutions and more importantly utilise the benefits of trance. This being just a state of focused attention very much likened to day dreaming. It supports your brain to figure out the solutions and more importantly put your body into a state of rest and digest. ( The place good things happen )

 

So who can benefit? Well the short answer is everyone. There are many solution focused clinical hypnotherapists up and down the country and many have specialisms. I specialise in working with children and adults with additional, neurodiverse and emotional needs. This area really excites me and has been a huge part of all the roles I have worked in most of my adult career.

 

I do however support clients outside of this. With stress, anxiety, depression, addiction or just those that feel stuck with something and can’t see a way through it.

 

My first experience of this therapy was as a case study a few weeks after having my son. We had quite a traumatic experience and solution focused clinical hypnotherapy gave me the confidence I needed to be able to cope with the change of being a mum, resolve past trauma and to feel comfortable feeding my son in public. This wonderful experience then lead to a beautiful hypno birth of my daughter at home three years later. Safe to say it has had a phenomenal impact on my life so much so I now practice it and teach it too.

 

If you are wanting further information on this therapy head to www.hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk

When do you say no, I do enough?

A conversation that I have had many a time  “ What is enough?” 

Can you define it? 

I know I have struggled with this. The issue we have is with all the things we do already it becomes the norm and so we forget how much is already getting done. Our work or day to day system is then being busy and productive but because there is so much of it we don’t register any reward because we are actually creating stress. 

Now don’t get me wrong we all need some stress to keep us motivated and ready to go so we are feeling challenged but we can manage it. The change is when we tip into threat stress. A constant state of stress where the cortisol doesn’t switch off and we feel like we are up against a deadline everyday… even an imagined one. 

Many people also have a great ability to ignore or not recognise the amount of work and effort that they already put into things and so take on even more looking for the fix or the next best thing. (Yup, done this!) Usually because we just do not give ourselves any credit for what we already do and so our primitive response is to do more!  

This can then lead to overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety, burn out, sleep issues and more.  

Once we begin to notice this pattern we can intervene and get honest with it! 

The thing with being honest with ourselves is that we have made the choice to change instead of just accepting things won’t change. There is an incredible amount of power in that. Stress and anxiety stops us from accessing solutions to problems and so when we get a glimmer of something not working for us and choosing to change it, we know at that point our brain is working more efficiently for us. 

 If you need some support to reassess where you are, create a more supportive routine and reduce stress and anxiety get in touch and book an initial consultation. 

 

 

When did you become last on the list?

 

Where do you sit right now with your list of priorities?

When you create that daily to do list, what goes on it first?

I can guarantee it isn’t something for you.

With our ever increasing need and feel to do more, are we becoming more disassociated from those things we need for ourselves. The words self care are banded around everyday but what does it actually mean for you?

The first thing that will always get neglected if things don’t go to plan is the one thing we probably need the most.

” Oh it doesn’t matter ” are those few words that we say to others if we need to cancel, rearrange or just no longer have the time.

Even when you cannot do anymore, you’re exhausted, feeling unwell, the mental punishment and questioning we then give to ourselves is just as stressful as having to stop in itself.

So….. When did you put yourself last on the list?

Who told you that you don’t matter enough to take an evening off, to make time for a bubble bath, to take that walk at lunch. To eat, drink well, look after yourself. Who actually said “you don’t matter so why bother?”

I’ve got bets on, you! You chose to decide you don’t matter. You put yourself at the bottom of that pile. How do I know? Because i’m the same. The difference is that I am slowly make better choices for myself and not others. I am choosing to show up differently and not try and do it all.

So, what can we do differently?

  • Make things you enjoy non negotiable. Have daily things to look forward to.
  • Move! When we get ourselves moving forward even if it is one step at a time, we can achieve more therefore having the time to give ourselves some space. Destination procrastination station doesn’t get anyone anywhere.
  • Plan regular interaction with others. It is really beneficial to talk things out with others so you can find solutions to problems and get a hit of serotonin from being in someone else company.
  • Take things one step at a time. Being overwhelmed is a sure fire way of forgetting yourself. So take things one task at a time.

If you’re struggling to prioritise yourself right now, get in touch. Clinical Hypnotherapy can really support you getting back on track.

I offer free initial consultations both virtually or in person at my consultation room in Bourne, Lincolnshire. Just click here to contact me.

In the meantime you can download my FREE guided relaxation to enjoy at any time of day.

Lets talk about Fears and Phobias

Fears and Phobias at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy. With busy life styles including positives and negative events is it any wonder at times we become uncomfortable with certain things and situations. 1 in 10 people struggle with a phobia and manage their day to day life efficiently enough to be able to ensure that it does not appear in front of them.

Sometimes even relying on others to support you with making sure a spider or bird are not around. Taking the stairs instead of the lift. Cancelling medical appointments continually for fear of seeing the GP or going into hospital. Our brain is very clever, if we are really stressed and anxious our fears and phobias can be exacerbated because our brain thinks it is keeping us safe. So keeping us on high alert, looking out for those things that scare us so that we can be ready and prepared to deal with it.

Just imagine a meerkat popping its head out of the sand continually looking out for predators. Over the years the clients I have seen with phobias have varied from a young person who could not wear clothing with buttons on or even look at is mums top if it had buttons on it without getting over anxious and fearful. To clients scared of flying and fearful of feathers and birds and anything that flaps. That last client as you can see has extended her phobia of feathers which she was originally scared of to now being fearful of all birds and anything that flaps. Our brain is very clever because it can associate things to that flight/fight state and then our phobia can become a lot bigger. This then begins to affect us more within our life.

Specific phobias can be treated with three sessions of Clinical Hypnotherapy once the Initial consultation has been completed. So three weeks from now you can be enjoying all of those things that you have stopped doing and start living. For daily insights and positivity head over to www.facebook.com/hummingbirdhypnot