How to manage the holidays

How do you manage YOU in the holidays? A wonderful few weeks, of family time can be great but yet exhausting at the same time. The juggle is real. 

So how can we manage things more effectively? 

 For a start have a look at what worked during the last holidays. I know that planning a home day really helps to manage my energy and wellbeing. Down time at home is important to get rest and recover but also to keep on top of things. 

Have a conversation with everyone at home in the family and ask them what they want to do. Something that involves being outside, a trip locally and supporting local businesses, a new park, stately home, a new walk. What do you have locally that you haven’t explored before? 

As a family we love finding new walks and beaches to explore together. 

Keep a good routine

This can help reduce grumpiness with the children. Keeping in a good sleep pattern can help process the events of the day and get good REM which helps us to wake up well. If this is a struggle give my FREE MP3 download a go to help at bedtime. The password to access this is HH2020.

 Ensure you get time to yourself

Creating time out for yourself is so important so you can still have space for you. Putting your oxygen mask on first is so important so you can then be there for others. 

If you or your family need support you can book a free initial consultation both online and face to face. Head to my website.

What is Solution Focused Clinical Hypnotherapy?

Many people I speak to are interested in the work I do but don’t understand how it works. Still even now in the 21st century we have this common misconception of mind control or clucking like a chicken. Most of which is media driven and usually involves images from comedy sketches and stage hypnotism that is far from the therapeutic tool of hypnosis and psychotherapy, that is incorporated into solution focused clinical hypnotherapy. A phrase coined by a gentleman called David Newton. He has taken the best elements of CBT, NLP, SFBT and Hypnotherapy to bring a modern and up to date therapy. Supporting clients to move away from the past, process and gain confidence to support a more positive future.

 

This wonderful therapy is based on neuroscience and our ability to focus on what we want rather than what we don’t want. A brain that is consistently reminded of all the problems will only focus on them and more to keep us anxious, stressed, worried, depressed. A brain that can relax even just a little can begin to find its own solutions.

 

As a practitioner, I don’t tell you what to do. I support you to find your own solutions and more importantly utilise the benefits of trance. This being just a state of focused attention very much likened to day dreaming. It supports your brain to figure out the solutions and more importantly put your body into a state of rest and digest. ( The place good things happen )

 

So who can benefit? Well the short answer is everyone. There are many solution focused clinical hypnotherapists up and down the country and many have specialisms. I specialise in working with children and adults with additional, neurodiverse and emotional needs. This area really excites me and has been a huge part of all the roles I have worked in most of my adult career.

 

I do however support clients outside of this. With stress, anxiety, depression, addiction or just those that feel stuck with something and can’t see a way through it.

 

My first experience of this therapy was as a case study a few weeks after having my son. We had quite a traumatic experience and solution focused clinical hypnotherapy gave me the confidence I needed to be able to cope with the change of being a mum, resolve past trauma and to feel comfortable feeding my son in public. This wonderful experience then lead to a beautiful hypno birth of my daughter at home three years later. Safe to say it has had a phenomenal impact on my life so much so I now practice it and teach it too.

 

If you are wanting further information on this therapy head to www.hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk

Is self-care selfish?

self care

Everyone talks about self-care and how it can help us to become better versions of ourselves by giving ourselves time out of a busy schedule. But is self-care selfish?

It becomes quite apparent to me that if you have to find time or set aside time for self-care then clearly there’s a lot going on in life. We have the busiest lifestyles we’ve ever had we are more stress than we’ve ever had and we have the additional chore of looking after ourselves. When did that become a thing?

I remember growing up that Saturday morning was always a time for my mum to give herself some pamper time knowing there’s no school run and no work either and that live and kicking on the TV would look after us while she took that time out. Now it seems that self-care needs to be more extravagant from spa days to mini breaks and retreating away for weekends with friends. When did self-care get so big? Why do we need to be so extravagant when self-care actually starts from the moment you wake up everyday and should just be part of your daily routine?

 

 

Take a car for example. If you buy a new car you look after it, you make sure it’s clean, you make sure it’s serviced and more importantly fill it with fuel to keep it going. I’m guessing you look after it to the best of your ability with what you have at the time. Human bodies are no different. We actually spend a lot of our time ignoring our ability to care for ourselves because we’re worried about others or being too stressed, too busy or too tired to actually slow down and give ourselves the time we need. Self-care can be time to just sit with your thoughts to have a hot shower, to relax in new PJ’s and even walking the dog. Self-care also looks like an early night and prioritising your week depending on the energy you have at the time. Self-care isn’t doing more. Self-care should be a non negotiable and should always be in your diary first. If self-care is always in your diary first then you will always be first. If you don’t start by looking after you who does?

I always find it strange in practise working with some clients because self-care goes out of the window because busy always takes over but when you’re caring for others who’s looking out for you? Whether you’re a busy Mum or you’re a working Dad whether you’re sitting exams or going through retirement, giving yourself the best opportunity to be the best you can be on that day is so important. When did you last put yourself first?

If you need support to be able to do this because looking after yourself hasn’t been a priority then get in touch.

Hummingbird hypnotherapy offers a free initial consultation for all new clients and can help you set your non negotiables and make sure looking after you is your first priority.