“You’ve got the power!!”

Not just a great old skool song but in reality, we are the ones that hold all the answers to ourselves and where we want to go. 

No one knows more about you than you. This truly enlightening piece of information truly enables us to understand that when stress and life stuff gets in our way, we find it harder to find the answers and manage our own issues. When this builds up over time, we then begin to doubt our own capabilities and answers. Struggling to know what to do. Incomes overwhelm, uncertainty and a whole load of negativity, our internal stress bucket begins to fill. 

This then contributes to our responses coming from the hippocampus which stores all of our inappropriate and sometimes negative patterns of behaviour. 

Ever had a crap day and eaten a lot of rubbish, ditched the exercise and shut down?  Yep, this is the primitive brain in full motion. 

Many of us believe that we are unable to find the answers, this is also a primitive response, the brain telling us what we can’t do. We need to quieten down the mind and switch its capability to its intellectual state… One of control. 

To do this, we need to look at what is going right!! What has been good?? No matter how small. 

This allows us to see the truth and show us that despite our negative mind trying to butt in, we have still achieved things. Moved forward, noticed where we are going and growing. 

 How often do you do that?? 

You can plan and create lists until you are out of stationary about where you want to go, but please acknowledge every small step along the way. This truly helps us to see all of the journey and notice where we showed up within it. 

When we notice the things that have gone well, we actual fire off the same positive neuro chemicals as we do when we have done it. Our wonderful brain does not know the difference between real and imagined and so use it for its benefits. 

At the end of everyday acknowledge “what’s been good?”. Ask your partner, children, friends, choose to take part in and promote a positive conversation, you will be amazed at how things can begin to change. 

If you are feeling like a negative Nelly and need a boost over the winter months, you can arrange a FREE initial consultation at Hummingbird Hypnotherapy and support you to be winter ready… ? 

 

 

How to manage the holidays

How do you manage YOU in the holidays? A wonderful few weeks, of family time can be great but yet exhausting at the same time. The juggle is real. 

So how can we manage things more effectively? 

 For a start have a look at what worked during the last holidays. I know that planning a home day really helps to manage my energy and wellbeing. Down time at home is important to get rest and recover but also to keep on top of things. 

Have a conversation with everyone at home in the family and ask them what they want to do. Something that involves being outside, a trip locally and supporting local businesses, a new park, stately home, a new walk. What do you have locally that you haven’t explored before? 

As a family we love finding new walks and beaches to explore together. 

Keep a good routine

This can help reduce grumpiness with the children. Keeping in a good sleep pattern can help process the events of the day and get good REM which helps us to wake up well. If this is a struggle give my FREE MP3 download a go to help at bedtime. The password to access this is HH2020.

 Ensure you get time to yourself

Creating time out for yourself is so important so you can still have space for you. Putting your oxygen mask on first is so important so you can then be there for others. 

If you or your family need support you can book a free initial consultation both online and face to face. Head to my website.

When do you say no, I do enough?

A conversation that I have had many a time  “ What is enough?” 

Can you define it? 

I know I have struggled with this. The issue we have is with all the things we do already it becomes the norm and so we forget how much is already getting done. Our work or day to day system is then being busy and productive but because there is so much of it we don’t register any reward because we are actually creating stress. 

Now don’t get me wrong we all need some stress to keep us motivated and ready to go so we are feeling challenged but we can manage it. The change is when we tip into threat stress. A constant state of stress where the cortisol doesn’t switch off and we feel like we are up against a deadline everyday… even an imagined one. 

Many people also have a great ability to ignore or not recognise the amount of work and effort that they already put into things and so take on even more looking for the fix or the next best thing. (Yup, done this!) Usually because we just do not give ourselves any credit for what we already do and so our primitive response is to do more!  

This can then lead to overwhelm, exhaustion, anxiety, burn out, sleep issues and more.  

Once we begin to notice this pattern we can intervene and get honest with it! 

The thing with being honest with ourselves is that we have made the choice to change instead of just accepting things won’t change. There is an incredible amount of power in that. Stress and anxiety stops us from accessing solutions to problems and so when we get a glimmer of something not working for us and choosing to change it, we know at that point our brain is working more efficiently for us. 

 If you need some support to reassess where you are, create a more supportive routine and reduce stress and anxiety get in touch and book an initial consultation. 

 

 

Why do we struggle to take a break?

It is certainly something that more and more people are struggling with is taking a break. Time out, rest whichever you want to call it. The work hard play hard ethic. 

 It definitely has its place working hard and celebrating it but you know rest has to be right up there too. The importance of taking a break whether its allocated at work or you need to time block a space rest has its place. 

So what are its benefits? 

 Simply.. recovery. Not just mentally but physically too. If you’re a gym bunny even your body needs a day off. If you’re a workaholic yup your brain also needs time off! Put that brain on a sun lounger and give it a pina colada and a sunshine view. 

 

 

Rest. It supports our entire body and mind to step out of go go go and relax into be. We are after all human beings not human doings right? 

 So how can you rest and be? Rest isn’t just feet up chilling. Active rest can also put our bodies responses into rest and digest instead of fight and flight. Accessing the para sympathetic nervous system and allowing the body to chill.  

 Active Rest can be: 

  • A walk outside 
  • Time in the garden
  • Reading a book
  • Silence
  • Preparing nice food and eating
  • Being around friends and family in good company. 

 It’s time to make rest a priority in your diary. Block it out and think about how you can ensure you’re looking after your body and mind restfully ? 

 If you are struggling to switch off and relax, did you know that a few sessions of solution focused clinical hypnotherapy can support you to get back on track? Hummingbird Hypnotherapy offers free initial consultation sessions to meet and discuss the support you require. 

Available both online and face to face with appointments till 8pm four nights a week. 

 

www.hummingbirdhypnotherapy.co.uk 

Is self-care selfish?

self care

Everyone talks about self-care and how it can help us to become better versions of ourselves by giving ourselves time out of a busy schedule. But is self-care selfish?

It becomes quite apparent to me that if you have to find time or set aside time for self-care then clearly there’s a lot going on in life. We have the busiest lifestyles we’ve ever had we are more stress than we’ve ever had and we have the additional chore of looking after ourselves. When did that become a thing?

I remember growing up that Saturday morning was always a time for my mum to give herself some pamper time knowing there’s no school run and no work either and that live and kicking on the TV would look after us while she took that time out. Now it seems that self-care needs to be more extravagant from spa days to mini breaks and retreating away for weekends with friends. When did self-care get so big? Why do we need to be so extravagant when self-care actually starts from the moment you wake up everyday and should just be part of your daily routine?

 

 

Take a car for example. If you buy a new car you look after it, you make sure it’s clean, you make sure it’s serviced and more importantly fill it with fuel to keep it going. I’m guessing you look after it to the best of your ability with what you have at the time. Human bodies are no different. We actually spend a lot of our time ignoring our ability to care for ourselves because we’re worried about others or being too stressed, too busy or too tired to actually slow down and give ourselves the time we need. Self-care can be time to just sit with your thoughts to have a hot shower, to relax in new PJ’s and even walking the dog. Self-care also looks like an early night and prioritising your week depending on the energy you have at the time. Self-care isn’t doing more. Self-care should be a non negotiable and should always be in your diary first. If self-care is always in your diary first then you will always be first. If you don’t start by looking after you who does?

I always find it strange in practise working with some clients because self-care goes out of the window because busy always takes over but when you’re caring for others who’s looking out for you? Whether you’re a busy Mum or you’re a working Dad whether you’re sitting exams or going through retirement, giving yourself the best opportunity to be the best you can be on that day is so important. When did you last put yourself first?

If you need support to be able to do this because looking after yourself hasn’t been a priority then get in touch.

Hummingbird hypnotherapy offers a free initial consultation for all new clients and can help you set your non negotiables and make sure looking after you is your first priority.